I hate to quote Drake, especially during this time of mediocre double albums being overly sold over instagram captions and twitter bio's BUT he was more than right when he said "Jealousy is just love and hate at the same time". I've never been the jelouse type, keep in mind that I mean in reference to the progress of other artists in their own field.... However recently I find myself becoming agitated by the small successes of half hearted creatives who seem to step onto the scene and effectively walk into opportunities. Romantically I've come to the conclusion that jealousy is a greater waste of energy than trying to convince a Fuck Boy of faithful monogamy. Instead, I do not see other woman as my competition and I will not compete with them for a person. A relationship is not my ultimate goal in life and thus there is no real reason to look at other woman as my competition. If you are inept of loyalty, its your loss. You've missed out, not me.
Amongst creatives the tables are in essence turned so far around it doesn't even look like a table anymore. Jealousy strikes us all but the bitter punch of it stems from those with the upper hand making it seems as if its effortless. We can't deny social media's enabling role in this. Before, people could only pretend success was bound to them-like Trump and strikes, through physical flamboyancy. People knew you were successfull if you arrived in the latest cars, watches and clothes, stepping out from the biggest house. Social media has allowed us to blog someone else's house and elude that it's ours. More than that, its allowed us to snap scenes from innocent breakfast lunch dates with friends and caption it "Monday Meetings #MoneyMoves". Eluding to success and demand for their craft. The benchmark for all creatives is not articulate flashes of material wealth, its the recognition of their art and the continuous opportunity to create art and survive from it.
Many people live by the mantra of "Work in silence and let them only see your success and wonder...". I hate that. As a young female creative and cohersed entrepeneur, my inspiration and motivation comes from those that are clear about their success and how they got there. It's never been inspiring to hear that someone accidientally stumbled into their success and whilst it may be enticing to hear that many icons never slept or had a social life outside of their craft, its far more enduring. In this world we can either make money or we can make a difference. The legacy a creative leaves behind can either be of themselves, i.e they were an iconic artist (Picasso) or that they inspired people through their craft and grind (Gary V).
For this reason I've chosen to be blatantly honest about my experiences and my grind. I don't want to one day be recognised for my craft and have it be a suprise, let it be down that there are ups and downs and that it was pure hard work and determination that allowed for the success. I am easily bothered by hard hearted created and influencers in particular but I'm not going to allow that to deter me. Thus a few pictures of me smiling as I push on and try not to mind what others are doing and stick to my own business. Check out my Youtube Channel where I post "A day in my Life" type vlogs cause I'm really mean what I've said. Click Here.
Words&Styling: Kiara Danielle Pather
Shoes: Steve Madden